Don’t Worry, Bout A Thang


I was sharing with one of my friends from work about how stressed I was financially and emotionally with everything I’ve been going through as of late. (Another post for another day.) I thought I’d done a pretty good job of making light of my situations by wrapping it up in a witty joke so she didn’t think I was in over my head. (I hate it when I feel like people think I’m in over my head. I’m pretty sure I can handle anything!) I’d even lost a bit of weight from all of the stressing (and walking) I’d been doing since the accident. 

A few days later, I was sitting on my couch watching “Reign” on Netflix, (A show my friend and I watch together and chat about on a daily… I highly recommend you tune in!) and was partially lost in my thoughts and plans of what ways I could finesse the next few weeks to the best of my abilities. (Low key stressing), when my beautiful friend, texts me this message;

25 “That is why I tell you not to worry about everyday life—whether you have enough food and drink, or enough clothes to wear. Isn’t life more than food, and your body more than clothing? 26 Look at the birds. They don’t plant or harvest or store food in barns, for your heavenly Father feeds them. And aren’t you far more valuable to him than they are?27 Can all your worries add a single moment to your life?
28 “And why worry about your clothing? Look at the lilies of the field and how they grow. They don’t work or make their clothing, 29 yet Solomon in all his glory was not dressed as beautifully as they are. 30 And if God cares so wonderfully for wildflowers that are here today and thrown into the fire tomorrow, he will certainly care for you. Why do you have so little faith?
31 “So don’t worry about these things, saying, ‘What will we eat? What will we drink? What will we wear?’ 32 These things dominate the thoughts of unbelievers, but your heavenly Father already knows all your needs.33 Seek the Kingdom of God[a] above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.
34 “So don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today.”
Matthew 6:25-34

I was brought to “tough girl tears” (where you tear up, but one dare not escape your eyes!) First of all, I was so touched that my girl thought of me and my situations in the middle of a jaw dropping episode of Reign and was moved enough to text me such a lengthy message. Second, I was so thrilled that it was exactly what I needed to hear/read to put my heavy heart at ease.


I‘m an “outdoorsy person”. I love the fresh air, animals, the Earth, and I’m often inspired by life outdoors. I could mentally imagine all of the beautiful new life that I’ve been soaking up this spring and how it all seems to take care of itself without any help. Things just are…But if you believe in a “higher power” (I do. #Jesus) I know that this is all by design.  As am I. I know that if God took the time to work out what seems to be  the simplest of life, that surely my situation has a beautiful plan as well. Surely I’m not here to merely struggle and die. Own that!

Worrying does not add a single moment to your life, apparently. In fact, it does the opposite.  It won’t make the hands of time move faster, or slower. Stressing has proven to be; which I learned by experience of course (and the internet), unhealthy for the body (surprise, surprise). I know we’re going to stress-it’s a part of life. Not all stress is bad, after all-it’s what motivates us to strive for more; but over stressing is not okay. Don’t let the world make you crazy. 

Understand that your situations are just that. A simple moment in time. In these moments where you are feeling overwhelmed-remember; God already has this worked out for you. Take a deep breath and relax. Do something to else for a little while that’ll help you feel calm on the inside…And then, carry on!


Who Died and Made You Queen?

I know bloggers are supposed to be these people with knowledge who are experts in their “niche” and have all of these letters behind their names and years of experience to match, but can I speak out of turn for a second? I think, we need more “real people”. We need people speaking from experience while in the midst of the “trial and error stage”.

I’ve done a lot of reading and have observed that most bloggers have come on the scene, already transformed into “the phoenix” power house, business guru that everyone wants to work with and be. But what about Jean? The years of “silence” in-between being a nobody and becoming a little more than a “nobody”, where you grind and work your ass off making mistakes and wasting money as you “figure it all out”?

I’m sure once you’ve lived so many “successful years”, some note worthy experiences may slip your memory. That, is where I come in. In the “transformation years”. I’m literally going through, (or recently gone) several rings down the shame spiral and can give AMAZING advice on what (not) to do in all of your typical “wtf” situations for those who are just entering the shit-storm we call “adulting”.

Now, I may not have a fancy piece of paper that says I have all the answers. (Quite yet.) But I have a lot of experience with a lot of different things. (Mainly because I can be so indecisive and have dabbled in this, that and the other things.) I’ve worked in a variety of different fields ranging from Marketing, to McDonald’s and have had the privilege of learning from some great people while on the job. (Besides, isn’t that what all of the employers want besides the actual education? Years of EXPERIENCE.)

It just so happens, you’ve run into me while on a journey of your own…People tend to meet and travel together for a while through life. Learn something. Exchange stories…Lets do that. I’ll share with you my experience-you tell me yours and we’ll do this..often-like meeting up for drinks! I’m inviting you along for a very funny and informative journey as we both pursue our passions and dreams whilst avoiding some totally-avoidable mistakes. We’ll laugh later about the ones we do make though. (Or maybe sooner than later)


In true Nique’ fashion, everything that could go wrong in the month of March, did. The general plan has been to make this year the last year I teach and begin school for Real Estate, then to find a job, (P/T, F/T)  over the summer, in order to be MORE qualified to either do a job with more property management, or to just go straight to a Real Estate company for work. In the midst of me planning the next steps to transition from a teacher into the Real Estate field, my brand new, “Stang” got totaled- which ended up putting me way behind financially.

I’ve been mostly depressed about losing my baby; but for some reason today after speaking with my insurance adjuster and trying to figure out what in the world I’m going to do about me getting another car, I just felt better. Don’t get me wrong. I’m screwed and I won’t be getting any money back after all of the foolishness; (shitting my pants about it) but I know that as long as I have my job and a little hustle in me- I can finesse this all to my advantage.

I still need a little while to mull over my options-but I just feel…Like everything will be okay. I sat down this weekend and decided to think about things that will only help me grow spiritually, creatively and financially; instead of all of the “L’s” I’ve been taking as of late. I won’t lie and say that this blow (speaking of my baby) along with a few other personal fails has taken a stab at my confidence and moral…

Everyone keeps telling me to look on the “bright side”, but the way i see it, I just threw away a few thousand dollars. Like I said though, (oh yeah, not dwelling on the negative) I’ve been thinking on things that make me feel better (or at least like i have more control over my life), like making a better game plan for how I finance another car in the near future, actually learning how to use this WordPress site, looking for a second job to help catch up on my bills, brain storming ideas for my business site, and I’v been doing a little reading for leisure. I find if I keep busy, then my mood increases dramatically while going through such a frustrating and stressful time.

I said all of that to say, if you’ve just been dealt an unexpected, devastating blow-just power through by keeping busy and thinking on things that are helpful to you instead of your losses. I promise it will procrastinate the “crazy” that begins to consume you. Now, I’m not saying you won’t rip all of your hair out (that’s what weaves are for), but it’ll take you a little longer to get there.

Sometimes things don’t always go as planned. But there is nothing wrong with adjusting the game plan to fit your situations. Adjust until things work for you, but don’t lose sight of what you wanted in the first place. Hang in there girl! Power through with me and I’ll keep you updated just to show you that yes-there is an ending…Until next time.




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Here’s to Us

Excuse me ladies, I’d like to propose a toast!

We were born into struggles that we didn’t ask for but we are blessed to have the privilege of being exactly who we are. Although things haven’t always gone as planned, we’ve finessed every situation to the best of our capabilities- despite “where we come from”. We’re not where we would like to be, but damn it-we’re on the way; And we’re going to make the journey a stylish, adventure-filled one, along the scenic route.

It’s time that women of color change the “stereo type” of what we are known for. We are not a picture for anger, government assistance, ignorance, attitude, dysfunctional relationships, broken families or the butt of everyone’s jokes. Let’s kill the whole “finesse the system” mindset and instead focus on becoming business owners, better mothers, mentally strong, spiritually healed and self-aware.

Here’s to not doing life the “conventional” way and blazing your own path instead because- “your not the boss of me!” To the constant pursuit of self-love, making everything beautiful and experiencing the world via, “The horse’s mouth”. And to doing everything we dare to do; because it can definitely be done well.

“My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, compassion, some humor and some style.” -Maya Angelou

Here’s to doing “it all” well, by simply doing it! (Then kissing and telling:)

Cheers…To Us!